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Relocating abroad for a better future has long been a dream for many Indian families. But when the offer comes mid-career—with school-going children and a settled life in India—the decision becomes far more complicated. A recent Reddit post brought this dilemma into focus when a man in his 40s asked whether he should accept a company-sponsored transfer to Dallas, USA, with an annual salary of $150,000 (roughly Rs 1.29 crore). The catch? His primary concern wasn’t money—it was whether the move would genuinely benefit his children’s education and future.
In his post, the man explained that his children are in 9th and 7th grades, and he hoped the relocation would give them better academic opportunities. However, several Reddit users quickly pointed out that moving at this stage might bring more complications than benefits. Many cited the growing backlog in EB1 green card processing, warning that the elder child could “age out” of dependent visa eligibility before securing permanent residency—placing them in a state of uncertainty regarding future education and work rights in the U.S.
Several users also flagged the major differences between the Indian and U.S. school systems. Unlike India’s structured entrance exams, the U.S. college admissions process involves standardized tests like the SAT, personal essays, and recommendation letters, which can be difficult to navigate for newcomers. They added that students moving in late schooling years often face cultural shock and limited time to adapt.
Financial Limitations Despite a High Salary
Though the Rs 1.29 crore salary may sound attractive, users argued that it’s not enough to live comfortably in Dallas while also saving for future college expenses. With suburban rent ranging from $1,800 to $2,400 per month and additional expenses like healthcare and schooling, the financial margin would be tight for a family of four. Moreover, L1 visa holders cannot change employers easily, limiting career flexibility. Some noted that unless the children secure green cards, they may be subject to international student tuition rates in college, which are significantly higher than in-state fees.Beyond logistical and financial concerns, the emotional toll of moving was also widely discussed. One Redditor pointed out that uprooting the family at this point could sever long-established friendships and support networks. For children, leaving behind familiar surroundings and entering an entirely new education and social environment could be mentally and emotionally taxing.
Interestingly, others noted that Dallas—often jokingly called “Dallaspuram” for its large Indian community—might not offer the cultural exposure the father was hoping for. While integration into a Desi-friendly environment could ease the transition, it might also carry its own pressures and expectations.
Testing the Waters Before a Full Move
A few users offered a more measured approach, suggesting the father move alone initially for a few months. This way, he could better understand life in the U.S., evaluate the schooling system, and assess whether the transition is worth it before moving his entire family.The viral Reddit post highlights a growing tension among Indian professionals: the desire to give children the best opportunities abroad weighed against the risks of disruption and visa uncertainty. While a move to the U.S. can open new doors, it can also introduce unforeseen challenges—especially when undertaken for reasons beyond just money.
